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Breaking The Chains of Motherhood, Poetry as Self-healing & Escaping Escapism with Sez Kristiansen

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About This Episode

“Sez is an internationally acclaimed poetess and author, born in Southern Africa under two generations from six different cultures. She has traveled extensively throughout her life, and lived in some of the remotest parts of the world, including many years spent in Sri Lanka deepening her spiritual practice.

After two children, Sez settled into a more conventional life and became a creative writer for some of the biggest fashion brands in Europe. After years of struggling with anxiety and chronic depression due to the societal pressures of being a mother and a working full-time in the fashion industry, Sez redesigned and downsized her entire life to fit the freedom and wanderlust she once resonated so deeply with.

“Entrepreneurship is a really great way to embrace femininity and womanhood because it allows you to express yourself in a way that is most authentic to yourself.”

Sez now lives in a commune in Denmark with her Viking husband and children and continues to travel adventurously throughout the world with her young family. Sez empowers people with transformational mind, body and soul guides that inspire her readers to live truly unique, unconventional and untethered lives, driven by their own blueprint of freedom. Sez will awaken you to your own free-spirited nature, which has the power to guide you to your own truly authentic, abundant and deeply nourishing life.”

Join us for a conversation about freedom being an inside job, balancing “the mother” and “the woman” inside each one of us and how to stop escaping negative mindsets that keep us stuck. Here are the details:

  • Going from psychosis to living with better mental health and greater self-love
  • Meeting “The Viking” Husband
  • How Sez implemented intentional living into her life
  • Why poetry can be an act of self-healing & liberation
  • The nature of escapism and how to find your way out
  • The paradox of freedom & rebellion in motherhood
  • How to balance the mother vs. the woman and intertwining both
  • Turning failures and challenges into lessons learned
  • Why the concept of the 50/50 division in marriage doesn’t work
  • And much more…


Tools & Resources Mentioned


  • Zadie Smith — Zadie Smith is the author of the novels White Teeth, The Autograph Man, On Beauty, NW, and Swing Time, as well as two collections of essays, Changing My Mind and Feel Free. Zadie was elected a fellow of the Royal Society of Literature in 2002, and was listed as one of Granta’s 20 Best Young British Novelists in 2003 and again in 2013.


  • White Teeth: A Novel by Zadie Smith — Zadie Smith’s dazzling debut caught critics grasping for comparisons and deciding on everyone from Charles Dickens to Salman Rushdie to John Irving and Martin Amis. But the truth is that Zadie Smith’s voice is remarkably, fluently, and altogether wonderfully her own.
  • Buddhism for Mothers: A Calm Approach to Caring for Yourself and Your Children by Sarah Napthali — Buddhism for Mothers discusses Buddhist teachings as applied to the everyday challenges of bringing up children. Parenthood can be a time of great inner turmoil for a woman yet parenting books invariably focus on nurturing children rather than the mothers who struggle to raise them. This book is different. It is a book for mothers.
  • The cat that walked by himself by Rudyard Kipling — In this story, Dog and Horse both want to investigate the people’s fire, but Cat doesn’t — he walks by himself. Then the fire and bowl of milk prove awfully tempting… The Tadpoles Tales series features simple retellings of Rudyard Kipling’s Just So stories with bright, fun illustrations, for children who are just starting to read on their own.

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