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4 Lessons I Learned From My Father’s Death

How grieving helps us get closer to who we really are & practical things to do if you’re grieving

Lesson 1: Give Zero F*cks

Lesson 2: Let Us Pray

I pray when I am in downward dog. I pray when I breathe in savasana. I pray when I write Morning Pages. I pray when I pull out a tarot card. I pray when I light up my candle. I pray when I cuddle my children. I pray when I have amazing sex. I pray when I feel pleasure. And I pray when I write. This is what God looks like to me.

I forgot that if I only let the Universe conspire with me, it can make all my dreams come true. I forgot that if only I lean back and open my legs to the Universe just like I open my legs to my man and receive — things will come to me.

I’m ready to make love to everything I want and seduce it into my life. I now know how to do it.

Lesson 3: You Are Worthy of Love

Lesson 4: Leave No Regrets, No Words Unsaid

Through healing the relationship with my father I’ve healed my relationship with men. His death and this grief is also a process of healing and a process of further becoming who I truly am.

Practical things to do if you’re grieving

  • Seek support. Share with girlfriends, family members, neighbours. Allow others to hold you and take care of you. Lean back and surrender.
  • Listen to meditations to help you sleep and relax.
  • Sleep. Grieving is exhausting.
  • Sign up for a course to understand and process your grieving. I signed up for the Resilient Grieving Course.
  • Sign up for a writing course on grief.
  • Follow and read Megan Devine.
  • Do things that make you happy.
  • Guilt is a real thing. Stop feeling guilty about moving on, laughing or doing anything that “you’re not supposed to do” while grieving. Everyone grieves differently.
  • Think about the lessons you’re learning through this process. Write them down and share them.
  • Connect with your spirituality. Pray in the way you want to pray. (Having sex is praying too. Whatever brings you closer to God.)
  • Allow love to come in.
  • Whatever your lessons are, start acting on them. What is the legacy you’re carrying now? Act on it.

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Learn the art of attracting masculine men who are looking for a committed relationship. Watch my free training at go.claimed.com/training?el=medium