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5 Steps to Resolving Your “Situation-ships” (Undefined and Unclear Relationships) With Men

Why sex will always be different for men and women and why women and men will never be friends

When you spend a lot of time with a man, naturally a bond develops. You hang out and do different things. You laugh. You watch movies together, you enjoy the same hobbies and activities. You travel together, you visit family and friends. You share meals. You share beds…

Can men and women be friends?

Yes, absolutely, but in circumstances often accompanied by special conditions and constraints.


Being “friends” with a man but deep down inside you know you’d rather be his girlfriend? Here is your 5-step formula on what to do next:

  1. Set boundaries & communicate
  2. Drop the boys club
  3. Surround yourself with women
  4. Start your dating funnel

Step 1: Get clear on what this is

Objectively look at your “situation-ship” for what it really is. There are only 2 scenarios here:

Step 2: Set boundaries & communicate

Here we’re going to use the Four Step Formula to Setting Your Boundaries With Men.

  1. Then say what bothers you putting an accent on feelings
  2. Then introduce the consequence
  3. End with a positive note and say that you trust he will do the right thing

Step 3: Drop the boys club

So many women (including myself in the past) are priding themselves on being “one of the dudes” and constantly being surrounded by guy friends.

Step 4: Surround yourself with women

If you find yourself being surrounded by a lot of male friends and almost no female friends, I’d recommend starting to switch to a mostly female friend circle.

Step 4: Start your dating funnel.

This is called The Rule of Thirds. This rule states that you should ALWAYS be dating at least 3 men at a time — create your dating funnel.

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