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5 Things To Do Today If He Hasn’t Proposed Yet

And why you should stop pressuring him if you want your man to propose

Every woman is thinking about getting married at some point. She might not dream about it all day, but she definitely entertains the idea. And the frequency of her pondering increases proportionately to the amount of time she spends in a relationship with a man.

It’s time to let go of the comfy pajama man and step into your big girl pants. Declare your desires for a masculine man and not settle for anything less.

Entering into a marriage with a man who is a pajama for you is a recipe for resentment, hardship and unfulfillment for women who crave to surrender to their men and let them lead. A yearning that is so natural and inherent in most of us, feminine women.

The Big Mistake & The Way Out

I have rebuilt faith in my own worth and value, my relationship with men and the world before I got hitched up. I worked on my femininity and understood that only from this place of surrender, letting go of control and being in flow with my feminine soul I will attract a masculine man that I won’t need to parent.

If you want a masculine man to claim you as his queen and lead you into marriage — stop talking to him about being married.

I see women doing this mistake all the time.

How Mature Masculine Men Make Marriage Decisions

A mature masculine man needs to make a decision that he wants you to be his wife. And he needs to make this decision on his own — not because you really want it or because his parents really want it.

And he will make this decision when he’s ready. And when that happens, he will do it out of full commitment and dedication to take care of you and your future family.

And so when a man makes the decision to ultimately claim you forever as his woman — he is taking responsibility. And that responsibility is on his shoulders — not yours.

Because all you have to do is say “Yes.” Because then he will never resent you for coercing him into marriage or making him do what he didn’t want to do or wasn’t ready to do. When a man makes such a decision — the most important decisions of his life — a masculine man will never take it lightly even if it’s on the spur of the moment — he is taking full responsibility.

And when a man feels free with you — you have given him the world. You have given him permission to be himself.

So in this situation, he will not have the chance to get an easy exit, blame or complain that someone else made him do it. Sure, some men do regret the decision even if they made it themselves — as do some women. That happens. But I believe that in the majority of cases mature, healthy masculine men will make the right decision if given enough time, trust and space.

If He Hasn’t Proposed Yet

Here are some suggestions about what to do if he hasn't proposed yet:

  1. Are you desperately hanging on and waiting for him to propose? Examine why are you so attached to the idea? Fear of abandonment? Men who are emotionally unavailable and afraid of commitment are usually together with women who are clingy and desperate to get hitched. That’s how we show the truth of our own insecurities to each other.
  2. Know that you have options and it’s up to him to claim you. When you rebuild your self-worth as a woman, you know that there are more than enough good men out there waiting for a woman like you. So if your man is not ready, willing and available you move on. Because you value yourself much more than simply wearing the old baggy pajamas all day long. You go get yourself a nice sexy lace nighty and you sleep in that.
  3. Take care of your life. Make yourself a priority. Stop focusing on the man. Focus on yourself and embracing your femininity. Masculine men are attracted to feminine women like bees to honey. (You are the honey ❤) Fall in love with yourself, your wild woman, your sensuality and your body.
  4. Step into your feminine. Men don’t like to be controlled. And so the best thing you can do to let go of control is to step into your feminine more. Surrender, be in flow and release stuck energy.

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