DorChy thank you for your elaborate reply. I agree with a couple of points you mentioned. With the fact that we need more communication between each other and that a relationship is a partnership and we need a balance. I agree that men are allowed to show their emotion and be vulnerable and that he doesn’t need to show physical strength for us to know he is a man. But I feel like you have misunderstood or taken out of context some of your points regarding my article.
It is purely a woman’s choice whether she wants her man to lead or not but deep down at the core most women want it. You might disagree with me and that’s fine. I’m expressing my feelings and my opinion.
The situation you have described of your friend is a sad one indeed and I know that there are so many women in these situations. I believe that these women are not mature women themselves are caught in the “Blue Beard” story where she is naive and immature to allow a man to take away her voice, her independence and her ability to earn income. I am not talking about these women. That is a different issue. I am talking about women who think they can do it all, who have become men and are not allowing men to be men. The situation you describe is a completely different story.
Next, I believe you have grossly misinterpreted my point when you mention a woman letting herself just simply fall into a woman’s arms and caress a man’s ego. A mature woman who knows herself will never allow herself to do that. She knows her worth and she knows her power and she knows better than to be naively lead by a man who wants his ego caressed. My article is not for those women. A high value woman will not attract such a man.
If you are further interested in this subject, I suggest that you read David Deida’s books and teachings as I can’t really explain it better :)