Hi Jess O'Keeffe thank you for your reply and I apologize for my late response. Have been having a couple of busy weeks.

First up, kudos to you for recognizing the loss of polarity in the relationship and the need for feminine energy in order to create polarity :) That’s a huge realization.

This is a common issue in a lot of couples. In my marriage, this is definitely present. Men operate this way: if it’s not broken, don’t fix it. And if it’s broken, then fix it. So they go into “fixing” mode with us too and need education on how to communicate with us (just as we do with them :) I love how David Deida rightly points that behind every woman’s complaint is not the actual complaint but the deep desire to be loved :) It is so true for many of us. Our created “drama” is just a call for love. That’s all it is.

So in your case I would suggest that you simply tell your man what you need. That most of the time you just need his loving presence and listening. You don’t need solutions, there is nothing to fix. You just want him to be there, nod, ask more questions and stay empathetic. This is quite hard for men to do as they might see this activity as “pointless” or a “waste of time” haha but you need to be patient. For some men, this will be their first time acting this way and actively listening. Try not to get mad at him for not following through. If you step up and be the first to take responsibility and tell him your need in communication, he will listen.

This is a continous journey. It doesn’t get fixed one time and that’s it. Relationships are alive and dynamic and require patience.

I hope this helps! Let me know if there is anything else I can help with ❤

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